The road to entrepreneurship as a young, free-spirited, wanderlusting and wild woman.
These are my most commons pain-points that I have personally experienced. I can promise you've experienced at least 7 of them if you are an entrepreneur.
You'll be excited to Get Started
The idea has been on your mind for a while and finally you've got the time, energy and drive to turn your dreams into a reality! You'll shout with excitement, "Yes let's do this!" You start sharing your ideas with everyone who is willing to lend an ear and you'll begin to really feel the momentum building. It's overwhelming and exhilarating all at the same time. You go girl ! (or guy!)
You'll realize you really don't have a clue what you signed up for
Not everything is always as it seems. . . 101 OF LIFE. Your excitement will carry you through the early stages of your new project and then, reality will creep in and you'll need a flash flight and a warm coat when you get in the deep of it.
The deep of it? Yeah this is where you'll look around and find yourself in the middle of a forest. Tall, dark, thick, colourful and dense pine trees surround you. You're unable to see your way out.
No tour guides.
It's just you.
You're going to have to figure a lot of shit out on your own. The "hard-way". No one will be there to hold your hand when your lost and overwhelmed. You will simply have you keep trekking through your personally manifested and metaphorical forest.
Don't sweat it too much. I mean eventually you will become familiar with your environment and find your way out after taking the "wrong turn" over 100 times. These are opportunities to LEARN! Be thankful for the hard times, they make it easier to get clear about what you want and where you are going.
Entrepreneurship is like being in a big, dark, endless forest. You won't have a clue what you're doing from one moment to the next until one day you are gifted with a new perspective. Imagine a Phantom Drone, being able to see every inch and square foot of the wild. That will be your set of eyes one day!
You'll Be Misunderstood BY EVERYONE
Friends | Best Friends.
probably even yourself.
Your life will get confusing!
You've got a vision. You know what you want your world to look like. Right now your mind is in a messy, disorganized and chaotic creative space. You have to live here for a period of time in order to find out what DOES and DOESN'T work.
There is little that can be done to keep you from creating the life you want because you want it so badly! As a result of this intense desire, you search, work, dream, and lose yourself in the maddness of entreprenurship.
So long as you perservere through all the emotions and circumstances that your new endeavor brings to your life, you will succeed. I mean really, think about it. How do you work on a project you love while developing new skills for 10-20 years without being successful? You'd be a professional writer, photographer, life coach, marketer or a professional w-h-a-t-e-v-e-r -- y-o-u -- w-a-n-t if you spent enough time doing it!
Your friends will think you're nuts. They will think even though you've been their friend for 10-20 years and invested a TON of time and energy supporting them through relationships, anxiety, depression, accomplishments, and even the the normal highs and lows of life, they are simply a business prospect to you.
This will crush your spirits at times, until you learn to laugh it off because eventually you'll realize it's wasting your precious time that you could be using to pursue your dreams and you SIMPLY won't have any other choice.
In these moments of truth you are able to realize the people who are truly your friends would never question your intentions or authenticity and they will ASK YOU what they can do to help, they will ask how your business is going, if you're okay, if you've slept, if you've eaten, if it's coming together the way you want, if you need to talk, if you need a hug. THEY WILL STEP OUTSIDE OF THEMSELVES FOR ONE SECOND TO BE A F-R-I-E-N-D TO YOU IN THIS REALLY DIFFICULT AND LENGTHY PROCESS YOU'VE EMBARKED ON AN ASK WHAT YOU NEED INSTEAD OF ACCUSING YOU OF ONLY REACHING OUT BECAUSE YOU WANT THEIR BUSINESS.
No 10-20 years of friendship won't change this from happening.
Some friends will not understand that you can't build a business on your own and you need their help and support instead of relying on strangers to do it all. You'll hear excuses as to why they can't be there for you. "I don't have money", "I don't really need that right now" oh and, "I don't have the time, sorry but the next one for sure!" (which means they're never coming). Yet they won't even offer to just show up and be a familiar body for you to use as support when you bare your soul doing things you're shit scared of ... like public speaking.
But of course your friends know you SO well. . . right! They think you'd really enjoy starying into a field of estranged eyes as you break into a sweat, turn every colour of the rainbow and try to hide the fact that you are literally about to piss or shit your pants and definitely throw up in your mouth for at least 3 seconds . . . before you swallow it. No they knew I didn't want them there for those moments because what I was sharing felt a little "uncomfortable".
YES you will see them on Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat out At DINNER (spending money and time), AT YOGA (spending money and time) WEARING NEW MAKEUP AND CLOTHES (spending money and time) and you will begin to recognize a trend. Your friends who said they didn't have the time and money are spending time and money on other people's businesses! ( YES THEY ARE PUTTING MONEY INTO THE POCKETS OF S T R A N G E R S!)
It will infuriate you, it will make you shake your head. You'll feel like judging them and you might slip out a swear word or two. FUCKKKKKKKKK ITTTT. I mean. Frig ITTT.
AND YOU KNOW WHAT!
It's just all okay. Because we're not always going to understand one another or be on the same page. Not everyone maintains a high and clear level of communication these days. For this reason and so many more, we can get lost in translation.
Simply put. Friends come and go and our relationships either evolve or dissolve. It's ALLLLL good. We are adaptable beings and everything happens for a reason. Some relationships are strengthened and some lost. It would just be nice to cut all the b.s and move on with it already.
The reality of entrepreneurship is, the closer we are to success, the less free time we have. We work 15-20 hours a day where we'll find ourselves without time to eat, sleep, shower or think, let alone to find time to go for a drink.
Personally the last thing I can do when I'm hustling to survive and make my dreams come true is take time away from my projects. Success is in the momentum, in the ease and joy of our creations. If I can't find time to "catch up" or bail frequently, maybe this is your chance to go out of your way and show up on my doorstep. You can take action too. Maybe realize that I've invited you because I am so busy that this IS actually the ONLY opportunity to catch up right now. It's a two way street. It's unfamiliar. It's messy. Remember. It's ALLLLLL okay. Life goes on.
Let's talk about family...briefly.
"How much longer are you going to do this stuff until you find a normal job?"
It's just...I'm worried about you. What happens if this doesn't work out for you? "
"What will you do if you won't get what you are looking for?"
"Make sure you have a backup plan!"
"You know the most successful people in the world had to try some ideas 300 times until they were successful."
"Don't share your ideas with too many people, what if someone takes your idea? You don't want even more competition!"
"Maybe you should get a normal job and just work on these projects on the side, you know until they work out for you?"
How many times must I be reminded of things I already know. I signed up for this. I decided that I would dedicate my life to following my heart no matter what. A life where I get to choose how and what I do with my time, is far more rewarding to me than fitting into someone else's schedule and trading time for money. It's only a matter of time for me you to be mega successful!
Regardless, I'll respond to your concerning statements:
Yes thank you very much. Yes I do understand that I might not be successful, my dreams won't likely come true, OH and... for sure I can count on someone else doing it better, so I shouldn't get too excited and be very careful of who I share my ideas with.
ANDDddddddDDDDddddDDD NO. Just no WAY! Okay sorry. No thank you. I AM SUCCESSFUL RIGHT NOW BECAUSE I AM A BEAUTIFUL HUMAN BEING LIVING ON THIS PLANET POURING LOVE INTO OTHER PEOPLE AND DOING WHAT I LOVE WITH PASSION!
I don't need my life to change. I love the challenge. I love the chase. The rush. The ups and downs. I love to learn, grow, and to see what I CAN accomplish. I also recognize that I am perfect just as I am, just as my life is right now in this moment. The only wish I have is to continue developing my mind. That's it! So whatever else happens is just BLISS and just MY JOURNEY. I'll deal with it!
You'll Doubt Yourself
As we just discussed, friends and family will at times have NO CLUE how to support you mentally and emotionally. Therefore you will find this process and lifestyle of entrepreneurship to be isolating and dark at times. You will get down and wonder who is really there for YOU or knows how badly you want this. Must I even mention WHY. They know you well. They likely know why you are busting your ass to make this dream happen. If you aren't clear. Just ask.
You'll be as tough as nails...some of the time at least. My mentality 90% of the time when I am working on growing my businesses is as if I am superwoman. I have to have that attitude and conviction in myself if I want a shot at success.
This right here is what the other 10% of the time looks like. When You just can't seem to keep that light on.
Self-Doubt|Hate Talk :
Does anyone believe in me? Am I kidding myself here? How am I ever going to make this happen...I just don't even know why I've tried for this long to make this dream come true. How can other people be successful? It's just not fair, I've tried everything! I wish I had done ______ differently. Maybe if _____ changed I'd be where I want to be. I just can't do this anymore. I'm exhausted and no one even sees my efforts.
The list goes on, the emotions get dark and heavy.
And then you just move on. Pick yourself up and work even harder because you want to show yourself what potential lies within your heart and mind.
This is your soul's work.
You'll consider giving up
Yes this will cross your mind several times. Some of you will even give up. I encourage you not to lose hope and to reach out for support when you're considering quitting. WRITE ME IF NO ONE ELSE HAS ANYTHING GOOD TO SAY!
Talk about your ideas. Get clear on WHY you want to succeed. Tell the world WHY you are going to make your dreams come true and make it bigger than your excuses why you won't or can't.
You do get that being an entrepreneur is more than a full-time job? You signed up for it! It's a challenge! We love it! We embrace it! We push through it!
You'll be dirty and frequently become a hermit, working for days at a time in your bed.
The momentum is high and you're on to something. It's working, you can taste it! People are reaching out, emails are coming in. Texts, instagram, facebook, the notifications are flowing and you have to get back to EVERYONE. This is where you've got to kick it into high gear and HUSTLE. 18-20 hour days EASILY.
Sometimes I even tell people I'm out of the city or country just to have more time for my businesses because I have so much work to do and no one seems to believe I can work for that long without breaks.
I DON'T HAVE TIME FOR BREAKS WHEN I AM BUSY MAKING MY DREAMS COME TRUE. I WILL HAVE TIME WHEN MY DREAMS ARE MY REALITY AND I'M FLYING YOU TO SPAIN WITH ME TO LAY ON A BEACH AND CATCH UP! RIGHT NOW I JUST NEED YOUR SUPPORT!
You'll Have Hundreds Of Ideas
You will have hundreds and thousands of ideas. Your hardest job will be staying focused on one thing at a time and building a foundation for your business.
You will have everything you want but it starts with chosing to focus on ONE thing.
Don't spread yourself too thin. Don't burn yourself out. You've GOT to hold it together and stay in it for the long haul. Trust there will be time to make it all happen.
If you think of success like a mountain, as you get to the peak, you are basically in a vertical climb. It is the steepest. You will take one step forward and slide half a step back. It's cold, you're tired but if you stop you could slide down, lose your momentum or just quit because you've slowed down too much that moving ahead just isn't happening.
When you are at the peak of the mountain:
CLIMB LIKE YOU'VE NEVER FUCKING CLIMBED BEFORE AND STAND TALL AND STRONG. DO NOT GIVE UP. YOU DIDN'T PUT YEARS OF YOUR LIFE INTO THIS TO JUST TURN BACK.
You'll Fail at All of them At Least Once
Most of your ideas are great. Some of them suck. It's okay because you're a creative genius and you're human. Remember we live in a society where the success of your business relies on your ability to connect with PEOPLE. We are offering services and products that people need or want. Sometimes you think of a great idea but you market it in the wrong way or reach out to the wrong people.
You will get better as time goes on. Ask a TON of questions and surround yourself with really successful people. Find as many mentors as possible and bug the crap out of them. It's how they will know you're serious about your success and their belief in you will help give you strengh, motivation and energy. The more persistant you are, the better. This is also how they will be able to identify if you are worth investing time, energy and possibly finances in.
You'll wonder what You'll do if this doesn't work
Yep. This will happen. Not much to tell you. Just hustle. You don't want to know what life will look like if it doesn't go as you'd like, so work as hard and smart as you can and NEVER give up. Or a good way to cope with the process is to just sit with the fact that you're awesome right now and let that ground you!
You'll complain about all the people who misunderstand you
Even though you get that not everyone understands what you're going through or working towards, you'll still find it hard. You told yourself you can laugh it off...but sometimes it hurts and it will be hard to persevere without the support you are wanting.
Best advice is to grow some thick skin before you take on a big project or build it quickly in the process of your entrepreneurial experience while maintaining a healthy lifestyle. EAT. SLEEP. EXERCISE. REFLECT. LEARN. TRY AGAIN.
You can't let emotions get the best of you and you also aren't a robot. Be honest with people you care about.
You'll Take A break
Just kidding. You won't ever take a break.
You will LAUGH
When your dreams start becoming a reality or when your reality is your dreams. You will laugh. You will cry. You will scream. You will hide. You will shake. You will rest. You will be still, grounded and balanced. You've had it in you all along. You didn't give up and you can laugh at everyone who ever said you couldn't and inspire them and many others to pursue their dreams. I mean for frig sakes. . .what else are you going to do with the rest of your life?
Congratulations. You made it happen!
If you are an entreprenuer:
Good luck. Be wild. Be free. Ask for help. Accept that you are different. Don't let other people's opinions of you bring you down. Surround yourself with successful people. Network and HUSTLE. Communicate. Be YOU. REMEMBER THE ONLY WAY TO FAIL IS IF YOU STOP. Try everything. Be okay with who you are right now. You are a success!
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Love from a fellow entrepreneur.
Her free-spirited and bubbly personality allow her to connect with people from all walks of life. She is a certified Life Coach, a writer, blogger and avid traveller who has difficulty leaving her house without her Nikon. She strives to serve, showing people how to get what they are most wanting in life whether it be physical, emotional, financial or spiritual.
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