C O N N E C T I N G W I T H M Y P A R T N E R
There is nothing I can say that will take away your pain or frustration that you are currently feeling. I share our experience because I know that I searched far and wide on the web for support throughout our long-distance relationship and I couldn't find exactly what I was looking for because every relationship is different. I hope in offering our story and tips that you find the ability to find peace and ease in your current situation. I'm with you girls and I'm with you guys, I feel the struggle!
#3 I Get What I Focus On. I Get What I Focus On. I Get What I Focus On.
When something doesn't feel good, I don't give my attention to it. I will be the 1st to admit that I have come to a place in our relationship where I cannot stand bickering. It annoys me to no end and I completely shut down at the first sight or sound of it at this point. I shut right up and stare off in space, ignoring whatever is happening in the moments it creeps up. Some might think this is a terrible coping mechanism and the truth is I couldn't give two shits about what other people think and neither should you. If this post doesn't resonate with you, please go find something that sounds or feels closer to where your heart and mind are. We are all different and bring something unique to this world. This is my specific situation so it won't be useful for everyone. Of course I think it's absolutely amazing how I respond. I am not giving attention to something that sucks the life out of me. I know eventually I'll have a different solution which will suite my needs at the time but for now this works. I go quiet and stiff but I wait, I rest my mind, calm my energy and I try again later when I don't feel so much adrenaline, resistance and stubbornness in my throat and chest.
TRUTH. Our partners can get on our nerves and it's going to happen off and on for the rest of our lives. They annoy the crap out of us and vice versa and other moments we're crying because we love them so much it hurts.
WHAT IF IT DOESN'T FEEL GOOD?
When something doesn't feel good - don't focus on it or all the negative factors because you will get what you focus on. This is SO simply girlfriends and boyfriends!
In order to get what you want you will have to go into mega action and write down everything you DO want in your relationship and imagine yourselves in this amazing space. If you want an easy guide to focusing your energy then you should check out my article on Using The Law Of Attraction To Get What You Want by clicking the hot pink highlighted area.
The bottom line is, you both have to take action! Affirmations, lists, visualization, speaking aloud, taking the good and moving quickly through the bad. If you don't move yourselves into action you will never have a different result which may ultimately mean you having to say goodbye to one another.
Sharing My Personal Experiences:
I don't ever want to lose my partner. I have accepted throughout our darkest of times, in the end we are both willing to see every side of each others personalities however blissful or difficult. We constantly transcend and expand in our human experience and it would be tremendously painful to separate such an intimate and loyal bond. Out of all the darkest of moments, we simply try. We don't give up. We speak our truths, sometimes we fight like cats and dogs, others we take space when we need to all with the understanding that combining TWO lives is the hardest task in the entire world.